Things that could help to make her happy

• Smile when you greet her.
• Compliment her on her looks, clothes or something she has done.
• Buy her flowers/chocolates/fruit/gifts.
• Buy and write a nice card to go with your gift.
• On special occasions always write a special message. which includes telling her that you love her.
• Tell her you love her at least once a day.
• If she is crying or upset give her a hug without necessarily saying anything.
• Never presume a hug means sex.
• When you hug or kiss her, try not to think about anything else but her.
• Try not to interrupt her when she is talking to you.
• Try not to correct her if she mispronounces a word or uses the wrong word.
• Try not to correct her if she exaggerates when in company.
• Explain beforehand that you may at times have to be alone or leave the room.
• Find another way to express feelings if words are difficult for you to find.
• If you feel overloaded leave the situation and resist becoming reactive.
• Do not presume she is being critical; ask her first before assuming.
• If she asks for your opinion on something sensitive, suggest she asks a friend.
• Agree to a compromise on how much quality time you spend together.
• Limit the time you spend on the internet or with your special interest.
• Do not even begin to explore porn on the internet; you may soon be drawn in and displease her.
• Do not expect her to participate in your particular routines.
• Do not force your need for structure and inflexible plans on her or your family.
• If you collect things then agree to a limit on the space you can use for those things.
• Encourage her to spend time with friends and family, as it is a form of social and emotional food to her.
• Ask her to write down any errands or tasks she wants you to do.
• Do not be tempted to fix her problems unless she asks for your help.
• Sometimes she will just want you to listen and not try to solve anything.
• Give her your time and attention, making her feel close to you.
• Tell her you love her when you make love.
• If you have children, remember that they are the responsibility of both of you.
• Come to an agreement on how chores and childcare are divided between you.
• Try to have fun with the family and laugh with them.
• Check with her how your child is doing in respect of their ability to perform certain tasks or their mental processes.
• Do not alienate yourself from the family; find something you can share with them.
• Agree a time that you can share with the children, doing things together or sharing an interest.
• Believe and trust that she loves you; accept and thank her for being in your life.