Robert Sternberg

Combinations of intimacy, passion, commitment
Infatuated love(夢中な愛)
Empty love(空っぽな愛)
Romantic love(ロマンティックな愛)
Companionate love(友愛)
Fatuous love(愚かな愛)
Consummate love(完璧な愛)
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  1. shinichi says:

    Triangular theory of love

    The triangular theory of love is a theory of love developed by Robert Sternberg, a member of the Psychology Department at Yale University. During his time as a professor, Sternberg emphasized his research in the fields of intelligence, creativity, wisdom, leadership, thinking styles, ethical reasoning, love, and hate. In the context of interpersonal relationships, “the three components of love, according to the triangular theory, are an intimacy component, a passion component, and a decision/commitment component.”

    Sternberg says that intimacy refers to “feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness in loving relationships“,
    passion refers to “the drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, sexual consummation, and related phenomena in loving relationships” and
    decision/commitment means different things in the short and long term. In the short-term, it refers to “the decision that one loves a certain other“, and in the long-term, it refers to “one’s commitment to maintain that love.

  2. shinichi says:

    Style of love

    Non love(愛ではない) The absence of any of the three types of love. No connection. Indifferent to relationship.

    Liking/friendship(好意) This type of love is intimacy without passion or commitment. This includes friendships and acquaintances.

    Infatuated love(夢中な愛) is passion without intimacy or commitment. This is considered “puppy love” or relationships that have not become serious yet. Romantic relationships often start out as infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time. Without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.

    Empty love(空っぽな愛) is characterized by commitment without intimacy or passion. A stronger love may deteriorate into empty love. In an arranged marriage, the spouses’ relationship may begin as empty love and develop into another form, indicating “how empty love need not be the terminal state of a long-term relationship…[but] the beginning rather than the end”.

    Romantic love(ロマンティックな愛) This love is passionate and intimate but has no commitment. This could be considered a romantic affair or could be a one-night stand.

    Companionate love(友愛) is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. “This type of love is observed in long-term marriages where passion is no longer present” but where a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.

    Fatuous love(愚かな愛) can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage—it has points of passion and commitment but no intimacy. An example of this is “love at first sight”.

    Consummate love(完璧な愛) is the complete form of love, representing an ideal relationship which people strive towards. Of the seven varieties of love, consummate love is theorized to be that love associated with the “perfect couple”. According to Sternberg, these couples will continue to have great sex fifteen years or more into the relationship, they cannot imagine themselves happier over the long-term with anyone else, they overcome their few difficulties gracefully, and each delight in the relationship with one other. However, Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action. “Without expression,” he warns, “even the greatest of loves can die.” Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love. Consummate love is the most satisfying kind of adult relation because it combines all pieces of the triangle into this one type of love. It is the ideal kind of relationship. These kinds of relationships can be found over long periods of time or idealistic relationships found in movies.

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